Tombol

I am cleaning out my office and found a letter you wrote me after closing the store. You wrote,

"Hi Aliya, Just wanted to let you know that we are out of whole milk and strawberries. Catch you tomorrow night. Tombol"

I miss you so much, and broke down when I found this note. I don't think I ever got the whole milk and strawberries for the next day, but it is comforting to know you were always looking out for me/the shop. Thinking about you all the time.

Aliya

Memorial Resolution to Tombol Adopted by the Illinois State Senate.

SENATE RESOLUTION

WHEREAS, The members of the Senate of the State of Illinois
learned with regret of the untimely death of Tombol Malik on on
July 9, 2005; and

WHEREAS, As a young boy, Tombol memorized the names of
cities in countries across the world; as a young man, he
enjoyed traveling and had recently visited Brazil, Ireland, and
Egypt; he was a political science major at the University of
Illinois at Chicago and a budding photographer who planned to
study in Germany;

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Tombol

Tombol and I weren't close friends-we knew each other via the small Hyde Park/Kenwood/Whitney Young social network-but he was a very, very special person to me. I've been prolonging writing this, because I get choked up whenever I peek at this blog. However, in the wake of the loss of yet another Kenwood alum this weekend, I've realized how often I think of Tombol and I feel that I would be remiss in not acknowledging publicly how truly beautiful he was. For such a FINE young man, he was uncommonly kind- we had great discussions on the streets of Hyde Park about hip-hop- and gave us the hook up at Cafe Florian. Low-key, he was part of the reason I went there so often! I had the opportunity to hang out at his apartment a few times during my last extended trip home and I always wished that we had kept in touch. The night after he was taken from us, I spoke to my sister (who knew him a bit better) and she told me that just that weekend they had hung out and he had spoken highly of me. Just to think that I registered on the radar of someone that amazing still makes me smile.

Tombol: May God keep your beauty in our hearts forever. And you were right- the "Respiration" remix is the coldest hip-hop remix of all time, though I tried very hard to find one that was better! I'll be rooting for the Sox for you.

To the Malik family and friends: Know that this young man's spirit will live on in the hearts of many. You remain in my thoughts and prayers.

Jamilah-Asali Lemieux

White Sox

Tombol-

Your White Sox are in the world series!

I know you're behind this :) and with every win, I smile (actually, I scream and act like a crazy person) because I know you're there. I watch for you. I know you would've been camped out for tickets, sporting a championship beanie and talking non-stop White Sox if you were here. But here's the deal ... to me... you are here, and to me ... you're pulling some strings up there so that we can all enjoy something that you would've cherished so much.

My pain does not go away, but when I can remember you and smile I know it's what you would want.

So ..... Go White Sox!!

Forever missing you-
Lana

To Tombol

To Tombol:
I see you everyday. I see someone with your profile, your eyes, your smile, your physique,....your presence. Last week,on my way to work, I saw YOU. Not with one of these similarities, but all of them. It was 9am, and I could've cared less that I was late, on my way to work. I passed my stop on the red line, and like a crazy woman, I followed "you". It was early morning rush hour on state street. I lost you in a sea of people. I stood there for a long time and wondered,....have I finally lost my mind?? As much as the odd incident scared me, I welcome any sign from you. I
am not scared. I have refused to delete your cell # and I often send you text messages. My phone tells me my messages have been sent to you. And in some messed up way, this helps me. I feel you around me everyday, and as always I welcome your
presence. I Thank you always, and please know your face is with me always.
xoxo-Kelly

Bringing people together

I remember you in the photo, standing tall against the Cliffs of Moher on the west coast of Ireland. Your left shoulder in the direction of America but you looking east. I also remember you when you answered the door to a nervous Irishman, your welcoming smile disarming my worries. Though it was only momentary when you introduced me to your “big” brothers, I will never forget your openness, your understanding and your insight. You brought people together. And you still are…

For this I am truly thankful. You will always live in my thoughts and dreams.

We are blessed to have known you and although I only knew you for a short time you will always be my brother, and I yours.

Don.

We do not forget

Dearest Malik family,

We do not forget you and your sorrow. We yearn for justice to be served. The hole in our hearts will never close, but we take refuge in our special angel watching over us. Perhaps Tombol can now put everything into perspective, while we, such mere and lowly mortals are left to carry on as best we can. Tombol lives in spirit, time is relative and soon we will be with him and all who have left this life for the next. Although Tombol left this world way too soon, it is so obvious from this blog that perhaps he had filled his purpose early in life. He left such a profound effect on people, quite unusual for a young man of just 23. I am touched by the words of his loving family. Not many families can say they have experienced such love within a family. I think of you everyday dear family, and my political family here in Spain and my friends ask about you and Anthony and the whole fugitive situation on a regular basis. You are most loved and thought of and I just wanted to write again to remind you of that.

With love and respect,
Annie Popelka
Madrid, Spain

Deepest Sympathies

Dear Malik Family,

I haven't been very good at keeping up on information from Hyde Park lately, and the terrible news about Tombol just made it out to me today. For the past 3 hours I've been sitting in the library in a state of shock, remembering Tombol and reading the testimonials from the many, many people that loved him and whose lives he touched.

I knew Tombol's older siblings better than I knew him. I chiefly remember Tombol as the baby of the family, still too young to join the big kids as we raced about, playing tag behind the apartment on Drexel or on the U of C campus.

When I ran into Shiera and Samil at a New Year's Eve party many years later, Shiera told me that I wouldn't believe it if I saw how big Tombol had become. Now I'm saddened to think that I'll never get to meet the wonderful young man he grew up to be. From reading the many entries in the blog, he was a wonderful young man indeed, and someone I would have been lucky to know better.

Sati, Shiera, Samil and Karen, my thoughts are with you during this sad time. I wish you much peace.

Ben Newton
Madison, WI

To the Malik family

I must be honest, when I first heard on the news the incident that happened July 9, I didn't pay much attention. So much crime occurs that you tend to become numb to it all. But when I saw pictures of your family's anguish during the protest demostration at UIC , I felt great sorrow. It was obvious that you loved Tombol dearly. And yet again I quickly put the images of your grief in the back of my mind.

But then I learned from a news article that your family was from Hyde Park and sudden I found myself more interested than ever. You see, I also grew up in Hyde Park and though I don't ever recall meeting Tombol or the Malik family I somehow feel connected to your grief. For the past two weeks I have googled Tombol's name in order to get more details of his tragic death. The sheer brutality of the crime angers me and it is only deepened by the numerous accounts I have read on this blog attesting to Tombol's good character . In reviewing the pictures of Tombol with his family, especially those of he and his brothers as children, it is obvious that he was dearly loved. He appeared to be such a genuine little boy who, from all accounts, maintained that trait in adulthood. I'm so very sorry for your family's loss and pray that the men responsible for his death are held accountable. I have no siblings of my own, but if I did I wish they were like Tombol and his brothers and sister. You all seem like such a loving family. I plan to follow the criminal investigation of this awful crime and will always have Tombol and your family in my prayers.

God bless,

K.G.

My deepest sympathy

Dear The Malik Family,

Tombol was a blessing from God. His warm heart and gentle spirit was unlike any I have ever encountered. I know Tombol is with God and his love and kindness is shining down on the world. He will always be remembered. May God provide you with love and strength.

Respectfully,

Shadia Sadaqa

Ray School 1997

Littlest Brother

Littlest Brother,

You were the best part of me--the gentle, caring, accepting side. The memories we shared were so deep and so many. We could sit and swap jokes and amusing stories for hours. You, Samil, and I had a special code when we were together that only we could decipher. Whenever we got together it was like we had never left each others' side. I will miss that sacred fraternity we had. Of the three of us you were the most pure, always seeing the best in people, always quick to smile. When I heard that you were in the morgue that fateful morning I cried and cried. I tried to protect you from all the evil in the world but I could never succeed. Throughout the years, no matter how much I tried to harden your heart it would always resist, remaining as soft as when you were a newborn. You were an angel and the devil took you from me that morning because you were too good for this world. I will always miss your gentle spirit.


Love for eternity,

Sati

To Family Malik

It is amazing how a friend's loss touches those who never knew Tombol. What I did know is that his sister thought very much of all her brothers, especially Tombol. I wish the Malik family solace in their grief, light in their depression and love in their time of need.

In losing someone so young, it brings to mind Horatio's words in Hamlet (act 5, scene 2)

Now cracks a noble heart. Good night sweet prince:
And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest!

Our thoughts are with Shiera and her family,
David

Tombol

I think about you everyday.
I know living is so hard right now.

Taking care of yourselves is the most important thing you can do.
This note is from someone who wishes she knew Tombol.
He made the world a better place.

Linda

Tombol

I met Tombol a small handful of times through a mutual friend (Kelly Hartford) and like so many others have already written, his light was captivating. I learned of Tombols tragedy at a time I, myself was going through a "tragic" moment. I only wish I could have been present for the vigils but my thoughts and prayers were with him as I pleaded for my own heartache. Only now have I come back to earth from my own lifes drama that I am able to write to this beautiful family, which reminds me so much of mine, and try to "hold a hand". May God bless us all. My prayers are with you.

Mayra Neria

My Dear Friend Tombol

To The Malik Family…

I met your beautiful Tombol in the Spring of 2003. I was blessed enough to be in the same political science class at Harold Washington College. We gravitated towards each other in the way that kindred spirits tend to do. After a few class meetings, we were sitting next to each other; smiling and laughing as if we had known each other forever. Tombol had a presence – a warm, compassionate, gentle presence - that made you feel like you could be yourself and he would accept you just as you were.

We had to take part in community service for our service learning portion of the class. I spoke to the class one day about the needs of abused/neglected children in our community – and Tombol jumped on my bandwagon. We signed up to volunteer together with CASA of Cook County, to advocate for children who have no voice of their own. We attended training in March 2003 – I'd pick him up and we'd drive in together. I marveled at how such a young man could be so dedicated to helping other people. Besides the training days, he promised to dedicate (at least) the next 18 months of his life to being an advocate for abused/neglected children. The day we were sworn in, we were both so excited. We had hoped to volunteer together (on one case).

Tombol was a very special person and friend. Anyone who I ever introduced him to was instantly taken with him. He was truly beautiful, inside and out. We spent many hours on the phone. Sometimes we'd "talk" about absolutely nothing until every phone battery had been run down. And other times we'd have these deeply moving discussions about how we wanted to change the world. I would give anything to pick up the phone and hear his voice again. Or to call him "Fievel" (and apparently, after reading this incredibly moving blog, I wasn't the only one!)

One of the biggest regrets in my life is that we lost touch over these past few years. Our lives brought us in different directions, and we were both so busy… phone numbers change, you transfer schools, you move… but you know your paths will cross again one day so you don't sweat it. Then one day you find out that someone that meant so much to you has been permanently taken from your life. I am so very sorry for your loss. I share in your sorrow. If I can be of any assistance to your family, please let me know. I pray for your hearts to be healed and for justice. I thank you for raising such a caring, phenomenal human being. Although I am deeply saddened, I am also joyful that I had the pleasure of calling him "friend".

Sincerely,
Danelle Altman

Deepest Regrets

Hello,

I did not know Tombol but I did attend Kenwood Academy during the time he was there. We had 1st period computer class together with Mr. Lilly. Although I was just in 7th grade at the time, the moment I saw his face in the paper I knew exactly who he was. Our class was sort of a hostile one so no one really spoke to each other but the
times I did hear him speak, he had such a peaceful like voice, it made me forget how much I hated the class. Words cannot express how sorry I feel for your family and they cannot express how much anger I feel whenever I read more about the case. But please take comfort in the fact that your son had such a helpful soul that he would try to assist a stranger off the street. I dont know many if any people in Chicago that would do that. My deepest sympathy go out to you and everyone who knew your son. And just think of his passing as God selecting his best early so they can help him reign. And rest assured that Chicago mourns with you over this senseless case.

God Bless

Monique King
Kenwood Academy c/o 04

My Condolences

Samil,

My name is Rick Herrera and I am a friend of Alan. We have met twice- once at Zentra and the last time at Alan and Sadie's where we played cards.I know we don't really know each other but I wanted to extend to you and your family my sympathy and the hope for justice to be served. The offender that has skipped his court appearances can't run for long and I know he will be caught eventually. Again, I am so, so sorry for your family's loss and I wish you all the best.

Much Sadness,

Rick Herrera

To the Family and Friends of Tombol

This past week has been one that no mother or father, sister or brother, no friends should have to endure. As I have read through the outpouring of love for Tombol and listened to the griefstricken voice of my daughter, I have realized what a gift the world has lost with Tombol's passing. I only met him once briefly at F212 while visiting my daughter, Lana, but the light, and joy and serenity that surrounded him could not be missed. He greeted me as if he had known me all his life and I felt the same. It is rare that a spirit as shining as Tombol's comes into one's life, no matter how fleeting. It is a tragedy beyond comprehension that he is no longer with us in this world. But a grace and beauty such as Tombol possesses will never be lost to those of us so fortunate as to have been in his company.

My love and thoughts are with you all.

Blessed be,
Lana's Mom

To my dearest Tombol

Ok, here I go... it's has been 26 days since Tombol's murder and each day that I wake up in the morning, I still feel like it has all been a horrible and disgusting nightmare. Recently, I feel that I am more capable to go to work and run my daily errands, but it just isn't the same anymore without Tombol's presence (on earth). Everywhere I go in the city reminds me of Tombol. I am so grateful that Anthony is in one piece and a live; maybe that is why it has been so difficult for me to write and email this blog entry. I still want to believe it has been a dream and that Tombol is only on a long vacation...

When I see Anthony in so much pain, and anger and sadness, it destroys me. Tombol and him were inseparable! Dating Anthony wasn't easy because the handsome "Tombol" came with the package! Where ever Anthony is, Tombol was right there by his side. From that moment on, I had the pleasure to meet such a beautiful, compassionate,
intelligent, opinionated and hilarious human being that I called my friend and my family. And I have enjoyed and cherished every fond memory of Tombol. I first met Tombol when Anthony and him took the blue line to surprise me at my dormitory when I started at UIC. Tombol, you were a pure gentlmen. When I first met you, you made me feel so at ease and safe. You always made sure I was doing ok and that Anthony was treating me well. Now, who is going to check up on me and give me that security that you have provided so willingly. Only you understood how I felt when Anth and I had disputes because you knew Anthony the best. Only you made it a point to make me realize that I deserve the best. You made it a point to always check up on your friends and make sure that they are doing well.

I am heart broken as my eyes are filled with tears each night thinking about all the memories we have had as a little family here in the city of chicago. I remember Wednesday nights were always a blast when we would start out at Pizano's for pizza and we would all sit at "our" round table and you guys would crack mama jokes. And boy did you have an appetite! Then the night would always end by heading to Nick's for a few games of pool. Whenever Tombol and I played as partners, we would never lose a game! Oh, how I miss those nights...

To my dearest Tombol, you have left quite an impression of yourself throughout the heart of Chicago and Chicago's extended family and friends. I promise I will never forget you Tombol. Your spirits, your voice, your laugh-- I can still feel and hear it so clearly. I never imagined myself saying good bye to you so soon. Life is unfair. One day we will meet again, where ever that place may be. Thank you for being in my life, and thank you for showing me how great life can be. If I cannot see you ever again on Earth, will you please come visit me in my dreams? I miss you dearly.

Lisa Lui aka Leeser

My heartfelt condolences

Dear Malik family,

I never had the fortune of meeting tombol, but like so many others have really been moved by the coverage of this tragic situation. From his beautiful smile in all the photos and the love and admiration articulated in all the messages, i can see what a gentle and caring soul he was, and just how many lives he was able to touch.

I wanted to share the following quote with you from Kahlil Gibran: "When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."

May the spirit of the great "tomboloni" be carried on forever by his family and loved ones through their strength, memories, laughter, and harmony.

You all continue to be in my thoughts and prayers...

Rakhi Patel

I’m lost in thoughts and feelings, in memories, in anger, disappointment, regret…

My name is Christian Hodgson, or Hodg, I met Tombol in the spring of 1998 when he came to Germany the first time, taking part in an exchange program between schools from Chicago and Hamburg. We enjoyed two great weeks together, and became friends. It is difficult to stay in touch over the distance, but somehow we managed, and when I came to Chicago for the first time half a year later we continued our conversations for example about an open-house-exchange system for travelers and other interesting stuff. He was so full of ideas, curious in very different fields, and always questioning everything. I was back during the summer of 2000, and I remember he tried to show me the famous Chicago Blues Scene. But I was still underage, and we didn’t get into any places… Finally we found something where the bouncer was not paying attention, sneaked in, enjoyed the band and ordered a drink. I just had a sip, when someone found us, and we got thrown out. It were those moments when one admired his ability to make the best of any situation, always looking at things positively, radiating a very unique, calm energy. The last time I saw him was during the summer of 2004. The night before I had to leave, we went for a long walk after some party, and ended up at the lake, enjoying a Cuban cigar, watching the sunrise. Cuba was one of his dreams, as Brazil was one of mine. There was a lot to learn with and from him, and he could have given so much more…

We spoke around Christmas, but then lost touch. I feel very, very sorry for that. I was and still am in shock about what happened. Why don’t we appreciate people until they are gone? The thought of not being able to speak and laugh with him is very painful. He enriched so many lives, and he was sooo not done yet.

I wish I could be there for the Malik family now. I wish I could have been there for Tombol.

Just sometimes a smile crosses through my tears. It is an honor to have known such an exceptional person. He would be the best to comfort us. It’s up to us to carry on his spirit.

Much love from Serbia,
Hodg / Christian

To my baby brother...

There are no words to describe the incredible pain I feel. You were my little brother, best friend, and confidant. I will never forget our trips to comic book stores and our late nights of baseball card trading as kids. And as we grew older, our talks about our lives and our future. It breaks my heart that your future on this earth was so brutally taken from you.

Your incredible compassion for others and your ability to be so accepting of people (even when others were not) have and will always amaze me. Your positive outlook on the world and your confidence in the good of humanity at such a young age is a testament to your enduring love and maturity.

From the moment I held you as an infant to your growth into a beautiful and talented young man, my admiration and adoration for you has and will never change. My love for you is never ending just as I know your spirit will NEVER EVER die. I love you baby.

Samil

What to say?

Well I don't really know how the fact that one of my favorite people from high school was brutally murdered pass over my radar but I must say that upon seeing the article in the red eye this morning my eyes filled with tears and I could not stop crying. For six stops past where I was meant to get off I sat and wept for Tombol.
I kept saying in my head what was the motive? You know when people die everyone wants to say how great they are and make the person to be, someone with great flaws but in my 5 years of knowing him, of bumping into him, of walking along the lake with him in Hyde Park, of helping him figure out how time worked in AP Euro. I smile when I think of Tombol and I never think that I will ever do anything besides that...physical looks aside (I nicknamed him Supermodel), he was one of the most beatiful young men that I ever encountered. My deepest regrets to those who lost such an amazing kid, and to those who will never be graced with his laughter and smiles. As he would say "Carpe Diem."

Aaron Bowen

Tombol

Malik family-

I am deeply saddened by your tragic loss. Please accept my sincerest condolences, and know you are in the prayers of many.

Rahul Pandhi

A Letter to Tombol

Dear Tombol,

I wake up every morning in disbelief that you are gone and i will not be able to see your smiling face again. I think that is why it has taken me so long to write something on your blog, because i still don't want to believe what has happened to you. Since the day that I found out what happened to you my heart and eyes have not stopped crying. I remember the first time i met you I thought you were the most amazing dancer and we danced the whole night together! That was about two years ago. This past year i was able to know you better as a friend. You were part of my chicago family, and I called you my brother. You would always come to my place to have dinner and play video games with Anthony. I was so amazed by your intelligence, your ability to make friends with anyone, your ability to be so loved by everyone, and your appetite! I will miss our wednesday nights at pizano's with you and the guys doing your "wise guy" talk at our circle table in the corner. I will also miss your hugs that you gave me when I just needed a hug, having a dance partner when no one was willing to dance, and the laughs that we shared together. I will always keep you in my heart and I always share great stories about you to everyone I meet. You were a great guy and you are one of those people that have made a big impact on my life. I am bleseed to have known you, and I hope you will save a dance for me up in heaven.

LOVE ALWAYS

your friend,

Kristina Granados
Los Angeles, CA

P.S. to the Malik family, Anthony, and friends I am truly sorry for your
breaking hearts.

Tombol

Tombol...

When I heard the news...I immediately cried. I am in shock that you were the victim of something of this nature. You were truly an amazing person. You touched my life for a brief period but you will be forever missed. I remember all the times we had fun. Thank you for the laughs. If angels are a real, I know you're one. Rest in peace. I hope you're watching over your family and are guiding them through this rough time.

Vrutti

Malik Family: Condolences

My heart literally aches regarding this tragedy. Tombol will always be the intelligent, sensitive young man with the sweet smile in my history class at Kenwood Academy. Please accept my deep condolences.

Bonnie F. Tarta

My Dearest Tombol

To the Malik Family,

In times like these, it is hard to find the right words to say, but I will try my best to speak from my heart.

Tombol Sharafuddin Malik has left an everlasting impression on my life, and for two reasons. First, for his hand in molding me into the person I have become, and secondly for showing me what true love is (for these things, Tombol, I am
so grateful and I thank you). Tombol has done so many great things and has affected so many lives in such positive ways. He was beautiful in every sense of the word and
through those who care for him and love him, his beauty will forever be.

Malik family, you are in my prayers and in my heart always. Please, take care of yourselves and know that I am here if you ever need me for any reason.

Love Always and God Bless You,
Stephanie Jackson

Samil and Family

Dear Samil and Family,

I am so sorry about this tragedy you and your family are going through now. I live only a mile away from there and to hear that it was your brother made me quite angry. I will always remember you making sure everyone was having a good time or was doing okay if we ever went out down at U of I. To hear that was what your brother was doing really hit home with me. My deepest sympathies and regards to you and your family Samil.

Hardy

Tombol

Samil,

As everyone else, i was deeply shocked and saddened when i heard what happened to Tombol. I haven't seen or talked to you in probably a decade...i'm not sure you even remember me. i'm an old friend from kenwood and i think we lost touch over something really stupid...my fault no doubt. anyway, i have not forgotten you and i just wanted to you to know that i have vivid pleasant memories of Tombol when i knew him as a little guy...our younger siblings were the same age. i took heart in seeing his adult pictures on your family blog. i pray that time does its work in healing your wounds of loss and that justice be served. i'm thinking of you and your family.

take care,
yamani (formerly johnson-taylor)

My best friend Tombol Malik

Tombol was one of my best friends and one of the greatest teachers that I ever had. Since he was murdered I have reflected on the profound impact that he had on my life. Tombol taught me so much about life, friendship, trust, truth, everything, that I know I am an extremely different person from knowing him. Tombol was amazing; it was so fun to be with him because he would make the most out of any situation. If we were going clubbing or just chilling playing video games he would never complain and make sure to have a blast. It was so easy to be around Tombol, I never had to worry about how he would get along with people. Tombol had that special intelligence that allowed him to be comfortable with any type of person. What was even more amazing was everyone else was always comfortable around him. I never introduced Tombol to anyone who did not immediately like him and feel at ease when they were with him. But Tombol was much more than a fun guy to be around; we often debated the ways of the world, politics, power, religion, class, race, nationality, love, relationships, morals, everything. It was refreshing to be around someone who was eager to challenge themselves and discuss their views and ways of thinking in an effort to learn and teach. We learned so much from each other. The mind can do strange things and in one of my deepest moments of pain, anger, suffering, and struggle since this happened, I thought to myself, I need to speak with Tombol, he will have something to say that will help me. I quickly realized it was him that we were mourning and this helped me to understand how important of a man that we lost. Tombol Malik is dead in the physical sense. But he will forever be alive in me and in everyone that he met and knew. Everyone that I meet will then be eternally affected by me, and as Tombol is a part of me, they will be affected by Tombol, and then so on and so forth. I promise that I will strive to uphold the morals, convictions, and compassion that Tombol had and take his characteristics into my life, and this is how Tombol’s spirit will never die.

Benjamin Drake

Tombol

Dear Malik Family,

Tombol was an easy child to love, with quick smile and sweet nature that everyone has spoken of. We only knew Tombol as a child, a friend and classmate of our son, Nathaniel. Reading all the messages showed that he remained the loving person he was as a child. We are saddened to think of his years as an adult that we missed and sadder still about all those years ahead without him. We cried with the rest of the community that knew Tombol. We grieve with you and hope that the knowledge of all those who loved Tombol will be of some comfort.

Nancy Schwartz and Tom Granatir

I am so sorry for your loss!

Dear Malik Family,

I have only heard the news today, being on the road a lot I miss all the important news. I knew Tombol for a short time, when I worked with him at Café Florian. I’m not sure if he ever mentioned this but I tried to teach him how to drive and unfortunately I tried teaching him in my car. Let’s just say my passenger headlight was not to happy with him. I have only known Tombol for a short time but many fond memories of him. Every time that the two of us worked together he was all smiles, from ear to ear. He is such a happy person and brings light and brightness to all around him. I am shocked that anyone would do this to him or to anyone. Have faith and my prayers and love go to you all.

Megumi Nozaki

Deepest sympathy

Dear Malik family,

I remember your family from ray school and kenwood, i'm not sure you'd remember me, other than by face. When I first read about what happened i was trying to figure out if i knew tombol or not because the article said he went to kenwood and grew up in hyde park, well everyone knows everyone in hyde park! but then it clicked today when i read in the newspaper about the court hearing. i automatically remembered who the family was. i'm so so sorry about what happened to tombol and my heart goes out to the family. my younger brother is a couple years older than tombol was and also went to ray school, kenwood and UIC, and ironically, my brother looks very similar to tombol. when i looked at his website it almost brought tears to my eyes because i instantly thought, it's like it were my brother. growing up in hyde park as we all did, you can't help but feel connected to everyone even if you don't interact with them. hyde park is such a great community and filled with great people, unfortunately, it lost a great person. i didn't have to know him personally to know that, but just looking at the pictures explains it all. again, my deepest sympathy goes out to you and may your higher power bless you and get you through this time. in the end,those who committed this crime against tombol shall not prosper.

many blessings,

rhonda wormack-khan




"my children teach me everything i need to know about life, and they have made me a better person"

-rhonda RN, BSN

I've Been Waiting...

To the Malik Family,

I'm a friend of Samil's from UIUC. I've been procrastinating writing this. I'm not sure why. Maybe because I knew that by writing this I would be accepting that this tragedy has happened and saying my goodbye to Tombol.

I had the pleasure of meeting Tombol a number of times when he used to visit his Samil in college and also after college when I used to come to Chicago. I've been reading all the letters and they all are so accurate. He was just such a GOOD PURE person. Of course, he was always smiling. The one thing that stood out to me about Tombol, was his RESPECT towards others. From the first time we met, I could see the love and respect he had for his big brother. He looked up to Samil, and I could tell just by the way they acted around each other. Tombol showed me that same respect from the moment we meet. He was always well-mannered and treated Samil's friends as his own. I really appreciated him. I remember an evening a few years ago when I was in Chicago. A large group of us including the Malik brothers were hanging out and enjoying a night in Chicago. It was actually the first I met Sati. Everyone was happy to see him. He was so energetic and full of life. Tombol was everyone's kid brother.

I wish I could say understand what you're feeling, but I can't. No one should have to go through what your family is enduring. You all are in my prayers. My deepest condolences. The focus of thoughts and prayers will also be to catch and convict those responsible for taking Tombol away from us.

I hope these few simple words will help you get through this.

Sunjay Tuli

My deepest condolences...

Samil and family -

I was shocked beyond belief when I heard of this terrible news. I only met Tombol once or twice, but I remember that he seemed like a very happy guy. Samil, given that he's your brother, I can only imagine what joy and fun he must have brought to his circle of friends and family. Having been through loss before, all I can tell you is that your family and closest friends will continue to love and support you through this difficult time. Don't feel bad if you feel like laughing about something - ever - because by doing so you are honoring the memory of your brother. My heart goes out to you and I hope sincerely that justice, peace, and strength in unity find you and your family.

Raj

He had an amazing presence

Tombol,

This small world brought me to meet you in January of this year. Our encounters were brief. It was enough time though to be graced by your warm and friendly presence. We shared laughter and pizza. I am saddened that the busy pace of life has delayed me in learning of your family's great loss, it is not until today that I was made aware of this tragedy. Thus I am late in sharing how I appreciate the beautiful person you were-even to someone who didn't know you for very long. It is obvious to the world now you will live on through the great love and admiration your family and friends share for you.

With great respect and sympathy for your family, I mourn with them for they have endured the loss of an amazing son and brother. Thank you to his family for sharing such a wonderful man with the world.

Rest peacefully Tombol.

With love, peace, and condolences,

Cristina Silva
Chicago, IL.

Rest In Peace Tombol

My condolences and wishes for recovery for the family and extended family of the dearly departed. I went to Ray with Tombol, and had many classes with him growing up. I remember seeing him grow up. And though we werent really good friends in school, I still felt close to him. Through the years, I've had the opportunity to get to know a lot of the people that I went to school with, years later. Unfortunately, Tombol was not one of them, even though I live less than a block from where he used to work at Florian and it hurts to know that now I won't get the chance to really know him. Still, to see and hear how many did know and Love him is a testament to the greatness he was able to achieve in his short time with us, and I believe that the Love and support that people have, and continue to show to him will carry through to the next life. Tombol, may you Rest In Peace, and continue to shine upon us from above.

Love

-Matthew Arnett

Thoughts from Eric Stern (Ray '91)

To the Malik family,

My name is Eric Stern, son of Mr. Stern, and I attended Ray School with Samil. Naturally, I refused to acknowledge that the face on the television screen was that which I had known years before. The last memory I have of Tombol is waiting for him to get out of class with his older brother Samil, Dameon M., and myself. He started laughing when he saw us, and hurried down the stairs. When he reached the ground floor, I grabbed him by his forehead as his arms tried to reach my body. The laughter never seemed to end. Upon hearing and reading everyone's accounts of the kid he was, and the man he grew to be, I was overwhelmed to see that he'd not lost that of his character which was most endearing and honorable. My heart goes out to all the Malik family and friends.

Eric Stern

Tombol

Dear Sati and family -

Sati only informed me earlier this week of what had happened, and I must say I'm still stunned and speechless. And furious. Though I can only imagine what you all are experiencing, please count me among the many who stand with you, if not in physical presence then in our hearts, offering comfort and consolation.

I turned to Julian Huxley (Sati knows why) to find him saying "Operationally, God is beginning to resemble not a ruler but the last fading smile of a cosmic Cheshire cat." Which is I guess what you'd expect from an atheistic evolutionary biologist. It certainly does fit the confusion I feel about all this. Of course, as soon as I start to wonder why, my thoughts go to - but he was such a good dancer! And I laugh at my memories of how woeful you Malik boys are on the dance floor, and how wonderful Tombol could be there. Such a sweet sweet boy - I was lucky to have met him.

with a heavy heart, and sending my love to you all,
Lauren



Lauren E. Brown
Ph.D. Candidate
Harvard University
Department of History
Robinson Hall
Cambridge, MA 02138
lebrown@fas.harvard.edu

Tombol

Dear Malik family,

My deepest condolences on your loss of Tombol. I had seen the news clip when this first happened but the sound on the television was turned down. I thought to myself, what a horrible thing to have happened, and what is wrong with people?--that someone could do such a brutal and vicious thing to another human being? The next day I read the news story at the Tribune online...and I saw Tombol's name. I was stunned, upset, and could not believe it. I met Tombol a little over a year ago when he was searching for an apartment in Chicago with his brother Samil. It only took several dealings with Tombol to see what a sweet and easy-going young man he was. It is incomprehensible to everyone I know how something like this happened. It's simply devastating. I cannot imagine what all of you are going through right now, and I am truly sorry for your loss.


My thoughts go out to all of you,
Renee Leung

Tombol

I am a friend of a friend of Shiera's, and I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. May peace, love, and hope blanket your hearts during this difficult time.

- Natalie

Infinite peace and blessings

My name is Ramon Norwood, I met Tombol probably my sophomore or Junior year at Kenwood Academy. I never became real close friends or anything with him, but I wish I did. I always thought that he was a cool, laid back guy, we spoke about hiphop music and breakdancing etc. I also remember him with the nice shoes and gear all the time, lol.

After I graduated Kenwood in 2000, I would see him off and on at various hiphop concerts around the city. The last time I saw him was last year, I believe and I don't know why I didn't take down his number to stay in touch :( anyway, to those who had the opportunity to be around him often, close friends, and family I would like to send much peace and positive energy as I can in that you heal over this tragedy. Tombol cannot be replaced and I do hope that those that participated
in this evilness, be handled accordingly.

I had not heard of this event till I arrived back in town this week, I saw the pictures of the protest/gathering from last Thursday and I want to say that it was a wonderful thing to see so many people show support and respect for Tombol, his family etc. I was in shock and still am over this.. I can't stop having visions of what went on based off of what I read about the tragedy. Stay strong and keep fighting. Rest in Peace.

Ramon Norwood (radius)
Kenwood Academy Class of 2000

--
Peace, Prosperity and Respect

Tombol

Dear Shiera and family,

as you know, we never met your brother Tombol. But we just became acquainted with you in Germany and of course we are absolutly confounded about what happened to your brother and so also to the whole family. So my girlfriend Kerstin and I decided to write this letter of condolence. Please let us express, that we are very sorry about the death of Tombol. We are sure that nobody can imagine the suffering of a family that has lost a son and brother because of such a terrible event. But maybe it will help you to know, that many people are thinking about you. That so many people are with you.

Shiera, we hope to see you again soon. Perhaps in Aberdeen, maybe in Germany again. From this place we wish all the best to you and your family.

We are sad,

Kerstin Neuser & Axel Richter

My thoughts to you

Tombol....

I met you last week even though I never heard your voice....shook your hand...or saw you face to face. It was an absolute pleasure to meet you and be a part of your life. I met you thru my friend Lana...of course I would of loved to have met you in Chicago ...but I didn't have to be there.... I am now able to see what you brought to life.

I know you bring the feelings that cannot be translated into words, poetry or songs.
You inspire and bring out of peple what we all posses
LOVE.........

And for that.....thank you.

You have made a difference....I admire you.

Myrna

My sympathies

To the entire Malik family,

I just want to offer my sincerest sympathies in this most difficult time. I read the article regarding your beloved son/brother/friend Tombol and was just devastated. Words cannot express my horror & sorrow. I know (from personal experience) that you will get through this, and only time can heal the pain.

I have you in my prayers.

Sincerely,

Traci Davis
Huntington Beach, CA.

Condolences

Dear Shiera and family-

My deepest sorrow on your loss of a son, and brother. I knew Tombol as a little boy - watched a movie with his big sister in Hyde Park theater, and even a baseball game on Farmer's field. Because I too grew up and spent a long time in hyde park, I feel the interconnectedness of the community, and its pain and loss. May you find strength in solidarity and staying together.

All the best,

Stephan

My deepest and sincerest condolences

Dear Samil and the Malik family,

I apologize for not writing sooner, but I just learned of the tragic event today. I've met Tombol a couple times through Samil, including most recently this past January. Eventhough I don't know him personally very well, I always remember his smile and his genuine love for life and for others. In a way his life touched everyone he encountered, even if he didn't realize it.

My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.

Sam Skariah

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to:

Human Resources Development Foundation (Anti-Violence Fund)
222 South Jefferson Street
Chicago, IL 60661
Care of: Evelyn Willis, CFO

*Please make sure that all donations are earmarked for the Tombol Malik Fund.

Sympathy

Dear Shiera and Family,

I just found out what happened, I've been away in the US for travel. My deepest sympathies for your tragic loss.

Yours,
Ken

Condolences

Shiera and Family:

Lisa let me know about your tragic loss. I am deeply saddened and sickened by the senselessness of Tombol's death. I took the opportunity to read some of the entries on your blog and am truly heartened to read about the impact Tombol made on so many lives in his short, short time on this earth. You have been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be.

Rebecca (Becky) Murphy

Dear Shiera and Malik family

Dear Shiera and Malik family,

I'm on the other side of the world, in Australia, and feel so sad that I have not been there in Chicago during this terrible time to help give my condolences and share the sorrow in person. I never met Tombol, but I have had the privilege of meeting Shiera several times, and from what our dear friend Eve tells me he shared that same sense of vibrant intelligence and engagement with life that you, Shiera, have in such abundance. No words can describe the sense of outrage at this senseless tragedy. The only consolation is that we human beings have an amazing capacity to survive and recover if surrounded by love and compassion and friendship - and in this sense I know you are well blessed.

Love and peace,
Russell

Prayers and Thanksgivings

To the Malik Family:

Yesterday at the Memorial, with you, we thanked God for the life of Tombol, your cherished son and your beloved brother. May he live on in all of our hearts. And may he rest in peace knowing what joy and wonder he brought to all who knew him. Thank you too, his family, for bringing Tombol to life and for guiding him through it within your circle of love. Now that he is within the arms of God, may we continue to stand with you in your sorrow and in your loss. Your strength and your courage as you brought us all together from many different worlds and faiths in memory of Tombol has shown us that God, by whatever name we call him, is the God of us all. May God be merciful and just. And may the Peace of God be with you.

Julie Less (Daniel Rogers’ Mom)

Tombol

Dear Malik Family:

I hope that time has started to soften the shock of Tombol's death, if only a little bit, and that in the future you will be able to enjoy the memory of his life with you more than you feel the pain of his loss. I'm sorry I was not able to be at his funeral. You should be proud that he was able to touch all the people who did come, and all the people who have sent the condolences posted on your website. Reading those, and reading the descriptions of him in various newspaper articles, I wish I had gotten to know him even better than I did. I thought he was a great guy, and obviously tons of people felt the same way, from those who knew him intimately to those who had met him only briefly. You should add that knowledge to all the memories you have of him, because your whole family obviously deserves some credit for the man he became, and was becoming.

I'll cut this short before it gets bogged down in a morass of cliches. I am thinking of you, and of Tombol.

-wta

My Deepest Condolences

To the Malik Family,

I would like to extend my deepest condolences to you. Since the moment I heard about this I just could not believe it. I graduated from Kenwood with Samil and I just want to say that I will keep your family in prayer during this very difficult time. Tombol's spirit will forever be a light of hope to everyone who knew him. My thoughts will remain with your family.

Valerie Moore

Tombol

To the Malik family,

I remember Tombol as a sweet little boy tagging along with Shiera and Samil years ago. I recall how close the Malik siblings were, always looking out for each other, especially their darling youngest brother.

This tragedy has touched me deeply from afar -- I can only imagine the great pain, anger and frustration your family is experiencing now. The tragedy and injustice are almost too much to comprehend. Please know that countless others are grieving with you in the loss of your baby brother and son. Tombol and your entire family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Lori Palfalvi

Tombol

I’m so grateful for this forum to read and share stories about Tombol…to celebrate and venerate Tombol. It inspires me everyday; reading about how wonderful he was and how there were so many others who got to experience that.

I remember Tombol always appreciated what was different about me…he appreciated the idiosyncrasies/ quirks in people…their true selves... Not the facade/image of perfection people seem to need to display. Tombol appreciated “the individuality” of each individual. He would seek out what special thing each person had to offer…despite their faults. Most people don’t have that patience. But I think he needed to see the good in people.

If someone was in a bad mood, Tombol would take it upon himself to cheer the person up…whether that meant he would look like a complete idiot in the process. That didn’t matter. I remember laying my entire depressing story on the table the first day I met him and him not backing down. That wasn’t enough to scare him away. I think it actually endeared him to me, that I wasn’t afraid to appear human.

Whenever I meet someone new I google them, in an attempt to see what they've accomplished, or at least what the world has to acknowledge. I remember a few years ago I didn't find anything about Tombol. But I knew that someday that would change. He just had so much to say and could say it so well. He had a way of expressing himself that forced you to listen, maybe precisely because Tombol never forced it on you.

I've googled Tombol everyday for the past week. And what I've found now is what saddens me the most: His legacy (at least for the world who didn't ever meet him) is overshadowed by this tragedy. Now he’s the “Tragic UIC Student Who was……..” He had so much more to offer the world than being a victim. He'll never get the chance to bring his magnanimous dreams to fruition. He'll never get a chance to save the world...all the things I (genuinely) believe in time he would have done.

Tina P.

Sorry for your loss

Dear Shiera and family,

I know words are of little comfort however, I am truly sorry for your loss. From reading the entries on the blog one can tell how much he was loved. Be strong.

Christian Rumple

Our Heartfelt Condolences...

Dear Shiera and Family,

We don't know where to begin to tell you how deeply saddened we were to learn of the tragic death of your beloved brother Tombol.

We send our deepest sympathy to you at this time. Shiera, it has always been clear how much you loved your brothers and your baby brother.

You are in our thoughts and prayers. We wish you peace.

With Love,
John, Brenda, Rebecca Murphy and family

Tombol

Dear Malik Family,

I, like many others, will hold you in my thoughts and prayers. I feel like I know you all, through the very special friendship my daughter had with Tombol. I attended the vigil with her, and I saw and heard how many lives he touched. I have read the beautiful comments of those who knew him, and those like myself, who feel they did. Tombol was a special young man who touched the lives of everyone he met. He will be missed, but not forgotten. Even those of us who didn't know him will carry a part of him with us as we continue his legacy of love and understanding. This loss is tragic and so unnecessary. I for one plan to live life as Tombol would have. I will be a better person because of him. Let friends and community members support you during this time of grief. We care.

Karen L

My Deepest Condolences

To the Malik family,

I want to express my deepest condolences for your loss. I knew Mantis Matulis from Bradley University, and was sick to my stomach when I heard the news. This is a terrrible tragedy, and I will never forget Tombol as long as I live, even though I have never had the oppurtunity to meet him. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am truly sorry for your loss.

Sincerely,

Dan Lewin
(Cleveland, Ohio)

Tombol

Shiera, Sati, Samil, Karen,

I've avoided the blog thinking maybe it's not true and maybe next time i visit chicago tombol would be even taller.  i don't know what to say... he was beautiful and gentle and the most mature "kid" i ever knew.  who didn't love that guy?  who doesn't?  i'm praying for you all every day and telling stories about him to everyone who will listen.  anyone who knew him will never forget.

Sam and Sean

Tombol Malik

Dear members of the Malik family,

My name is Diane Hill.  I attended highschool with Tombol but unfortunately I didn’t have the opportunity to get to know him personally.  However, he stood out.  Every time I saw Tombol all I noticed was a huge smile and his eyebrows.  A lot of my friends were friends with Tombol and they speak highly of him.

I really wish I had all the right things to say to heal your pain.  I can feel and see the pain in my friends and I can only imagine how you must be feeling at a time like this.  I want to express my deepest condolences to you.  And I would like you know that the Malik family is in our prayers.

Diane M. Hill

Kenwood Academy Class of 2000

Sincerest and heartfelt condolences for Tombol

Dear Uncle Sharaf, Aunt Karen, Shiera, Sat, and Samil,

Since we heard about the tragic passing of our dear brother Tombol we have all been grief-stricken. All of you have been and remain in our thoughts and prayers and we are so relieved that all of you can finally be together. There are no words that can express the sadness and outrage we are feeling at such an inexplicable act of violence. I’ve been reading the blog entries everyday and find solace in the fact that Tombol was a very much loved and highly respected individual; most people live their whole lives and do not earn the kind of respect that Tombol has in his short time with us. For that, I am extremely honored to be a part of his family. May he rest in eternal peace. I pray that you remain strong and persevere. Justice will prevail! God be with you always.

The Taha Family

(Mysoon, Taisir, Dalal & Omar)

Tombol

Always I shall treasure the memory of our precious time together when you drove from Chicago to Roanoke to be with your grandfather and me.

This last surreal week with your Uncle Jon has bound us with your friends as well as fast friends of  Shiera Sati and Samil.

Love always, Gran(Muriel Brobst)

With my deepest sympathy

Dear Malik family:
I only had one opportunity to meet Tombol (at Aliya's new restaurant) but based on that meeting and everything that I have heard about Tombol it made my heart break when I heard the news of the tragedy.  It is disgusting to me that something like this could happen to such a good person for simply showing human kindness.  And possibly even more troubling is the fact that the murderers are out on some freakish technicality - what else is it but wanton cruelty?  I am truly, truly sorry for your loss and hope that time and prayer will heal your pain.

Tombol's spirit will live on forever!

Sonia

Condolences

Dear Sharaf,Karen,Sheira, Sati and Samil,

Nothing can be said that will match the deep sadness, anguish and even rage that one feels at these moments. Yet, you all must feel infinitely worse, and I  sincerely prey to God to bestow his eternal serenity upon you and may Tonbol's soul rest in eternal peace. We havn't seen Tonbol for years but when I saw his photos, it is as if I had seen him a short while ago, so charming, so radiant! ... Let all of us be strong and together, until we see justice take its course.

Elfadil, Hind, Elfatih, Atheel and Mohamed Elmalik.

Tombol

Dear members of the Malik family,

this is to express my and Ada's condolences about the terrible tragedy that has happened to your son and brother. We couldn't believe that such unbelievably terrible attacks can happen apparently to anybody and anytime. Even our little one, Alexander, age 8, was very sad about this tragedy, although he can of course hardly grasp what this means. We haven't gotten to know you personally yet, but we want to let you know that all of Patrick's family is very close with you in this tragic moment.

With warmest regards,

Ada, Alexander, and Jürgen

Tombol

I wish I could say that I had the opportunity to meet Tombol. From everything I have been told, he was a true pleasure to be around. My friend Lana has shared with me so much about him, which I am sure is just the iceberg of how much he had to offer. It is funny because every time Lana recalls an anecdote that involves Tombol her face lights up and she cannot help but smile. This speaks volumes about his personality. He enhanced her life with his presence and I am thankful for that.

To Tombol's friends and family, I wish I knew the right thing to say. I am not even sure that there is a "right" thing to say in situations like these. What happened is horrific and I am so sorry for you all. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Shawna

Tombol

To all the Malik family with my deepest condolences and great sadness.

Shiera let me know what happened to Tombol and I still don’t know what to say to you all about something so unimaginable. Words are utterly inadequate in response to such loss.

I have read the reports and am shocked to hear of such brutality.

The contrast with all the stories of Tombol couldn’t be more stark.

I am thinking of you all and praying that you find comfort in all the love for Tombol that comes from everyone who knew him.

I never met him and yet I can feel how much he was loved.

Shiera is a wonderful friend, and a very special person and I have met Samil and your father so I know what a lovely family Tombol comes from.

He was young, he was good and this should not have happened.

I hope that justice will be done.
 

With all my love from Bronwen

Family tragedy

Dear Malik family,

we heard with great sadness of your family tragedy. Our thoughts are with you.

Eddie Hyland and Brid

My deepest condolences

To Samil and family,

I want to express my deepest condolences to you. It is really so very tragic and unfortunate and I want to say my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope your family can find strength in this trying time.

Amish Shah

You Will Never Be Forgotten, Tombol!

Dear Malik Family,

My name is Damany Dillard of Los Angeles, California and I attended Ray School and Kenwood High School with Tombol. He was dear to me and will never be forgotten. Rest In Peace.

Damany Dillard,
Ray School Class of 1997
Kenwood Academy Class of 2001

My condolences

Dear Malik Family,

I wanted to offer my condolences on your tremendous loss.  I had the pleasure and honor of meeting Tombol while Samil and I were roommates at the University of Illinois.  There was just something special about Tombol that I don’t know if I can truly describe.  He was so warm and such a pleasure to be around.  He seemed to enjoy life so much, and life was better with him in it.  The thing that I will always remember about Tombol was his big smile and infectious sense of humor.  Words can’t express my sadness for your loss.  You are all in my prayers.

Jason Oliva

Rest in peace, good friend

Hello, my name is Frederick J. Penman Jr. class of 2001 Kenwood Academy. To say a name like Tombol Malik it makes you think that this young vibrant male could have went on to win the Nobel Prize for Peace and maybe humanities. I met Tombol during my freshman year of high school at Kenwood Academy and right there I knew that no matter where we go in life he will still be one of my dearest friends. Tombol knew what to
say and say it so eloquently.
--
Frederick J. Penman Jr

Tombol

Dear Shiera and family,

I received the email with the terrible news today, and I am deeply shocked. I want to offer my sincere condolences and I am really at a loss at what to say. I want to let you know that I am thinking of you and wish you all strength in this terrible moment.

Alex

Tombol

Dear Karen, Sharaf, Sati, Sheira, and Samil,

We just heard of your loss and are profoundly shaken.  Our hearts go out to you.  We will never forget Tombol following after Sati and Seth and Ed as they played baseball and football back behind the Drexel apartments.  Tombol would laugh and laugh—he was such a happy child.  And Sati would protect him (and Samil) fiercely—the best big brother someone could have.

After reading all the postings and news articles, nothing really makes sense except for the outpouring of love for Tombol—he obviously earned it.  We too send you our love and pledge to do what we can to make this world a more compassionate world, a world with less and less senseless violence, a world where Tombol could live in peace.

Yours with deepest sympathy,

Steve and Jody Nelsen

Tombol

Shiera and Malik family,

It is very sad news to hear about the death of your brother. I can only hope that you and your family can find strength in each other and your friends. All I can offer are my condolences.

Declan

Condolences

Dear Sharaf, Karen, Shiera, Sati and Samil,

We have been grieved hearing the painful tragedy that happened to our blessed Son, Al Malik Tombol. Our heartfelt condolences to you all, May Allah bless him.

El Shareef Mustafa, Hassiba El Zubeir El Malik, Ahmed El Idrisy, Walaa, and the family from Sudan.

Tombol

Dear Malik Family,

My heart goes out to you.  Tombol and I worked together at Cafe Florian.  He had an innocence about him that people were instinctively drawn to--he was everyone's surrogate little brother.  Shiera, as an older-sister, I think of you especially during this painful time. When I would give Tombol my "sisterly advice", he would always smile and tell me to relax, reminding me he already had a big-sister at home.  Although we've never met, Tombol talked about you so much I feel as if we have.  He was so proud of you. I feel privileged to have known Tombol.  My prayers are with you all during this time of loss.

- Eve Kelly

We will always love and remember Tombol...

Shiera, Sati, Samil, Karen, and Dr. Malik -

It so hard to find the words to start.  I have mourned, yet there is still a part of me that wants to wake up from a terrible dream.  If there is ever a time that I wish I wasn't so far from home, it is now.  We all go back so far...growing up on Drexel Ave. together and sharing so many memories and wonderful times.  I have always and always will consider you the extended family that we never had in Chicago.  Even as we all got older and went our ways (Shiera and until recently, me), whenever we came back to together, it was as if we were never apart.  I have a feeling that although the physical distance may remain the same, this will bring us closer than ever before.

Like the pieces of a puzzle, you are each so different, but complete a perfect whole together.  Tombol was the baby - that final piece.  And although he his gone, I know the Malik strength will help you to continue on.  Tombol wouldn't want it any other way.  He was truly unique - a one and only - and the lives of those he touched will never be the same.  I know mine won't; I was blessed so long to have known someone so special.  Charismatic, respectful, caring, warm, gentle, fun, smart, compassionate, genuine...all the words people have used to describe him and there are so many more.  We could make a dictionary alone of words to describe Tombol and only wish that more people would model after it.  Take comfort in knowing that he is looking down on us and smiling in that warm, sweet, unforgettable way.

Tombol, "T-Bone" - you were taken from us entirely too soon.  We love you, we miss you, and we will never forget you.   May you rest in peace and may JUSTICE BE SERVED in your name.  Until we meet again...

Love always,

Miriam

I am very sad

I am saddened by the sudden loss of your son Tombol. I ask God to bless him and forgive us all .....my prayers to you all for this painful ..but I ask heaven from God to him.

Your brother, uncle Khalid

Dearest Tombol

Dearest Tombol~

It has taken me a long time to find the words to express my sadness and disbelief over what has happened. I still don't think that these words will be sufficient to express the loss and pain I feel inside. I have been truly blessed to have had you in my life in one way or another for the past few years. I will always remember the good vibes you constantly generated to those around you and your handsome, outgoing, easy to talk to and funny nature that was so contagious and intriguing. I loved how you loved people, dancing, traveling, and a good sense of humor. I remember the numerous times spent watching Conan or Chappelle's show, especially the Rick James episode, and laughing until our stomachs hurt. You are still one of the few guys I've met that loves to dance as much as I do. I would look forward to going out with you because I knew you would dance, I have that image of you dancing imprinted in my memory. You were the guy, kind, thoughtful, gentle and funny, that I assumed I would know forever. Although we didn't keep in touch frequently, I always imagined running into you somewhere around Chicago. I still find myself looking twice at people or waiting for you to walk through the door at Florian or Sonotech and I imagine I will do that for sometime. It is hard accepting that someone is no longer physically around, but I feel your presence every time I remember the time we spent together. Although I am outraged and deeply saddened, I know your light shines in all of us and will help to bring justice so that you may rest peacefully. Tombol, you are loved and will always be in our hearts.

Sincerely,
Hannah Breed

Tombol

To The Malik Family,

I am deeply saddened by your loss. I did not know Tombol personally. My sister was friends with him and through the stories she told me I felt like I knew him. I was shocked when I heard the news about his death, I felt like I had lost a friend. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family.

Sincerely,
Erin L.

Dear Shiera, Sati, Samil, Mother and Father,

We have known you all at least 25 years and have known Tombol since he was a toddler. I've watched him grow into a fine young man, polite, gentle, kind, smart -- just a wonderful human being. My pet name for him was "baby Tombol" since he was the youngest. I am greatly distressed, grieved and very angry at what happened to him. Tombol did not deserve this. May God bless you dearest Tombol and rest in peace. Family, be strong.

Love,
Dianne

Tombol

Hello. I didn't know Tombol, but I just read about what happened and I'm terribly sorry to hear it. I'm a UIC student, so to think that this happened on the same campus that I know so well makes the thought of it that much more pressing to me. I just wanted to say that my thoughts are with you, and with the whole family.

Rich Ranallo

My thoughts and prayers are with you

Dear Shiera, Sati, Samil, Karen and Dr. Malik,

My heart has been aching since the first moment when I learned about Tombol's death.

Shiera, you and I have known each other for so many years, and along with our friendship I have been honored to have met your wonderful brothers and lovely mother. I remember Tombol as a little boy. He was so sweet and your love for him seemed overflowing. I remember Tombol as a young man, too. I was so happily surprised to see him when he delivered for the Florian. It seemed as if he had grown two feet! He was always sweet and we spoke many times and exchanged news about this and that whenever we saw each other. Whenever I saw him, I thought about you Shiera.

Shiera, Sati, and Samil, my heart goes out to you. The wonderful closeness that you all share is so beautiful and has brought me to tears many times throughout this past week. You inspire us with your grace and dignity in the face of this tragedy.

The many friends present at the vigils are a testament to the love and friendship that Tombol had for the people in his life. The many warm and heartfelt memories that were shared, I'm sure are a mere fraction of what those present wanted to share if they could only put to words their thoughts at such an unbelievably sad time. Memories and tears were mixed with outrage at such a violent passing for such a gentle and kind soul. I believe justice must and will prevail.

Tombol is in my thoughts and prayers and those of my
mother, brother and sister.

With my love,
Eve Tselepatiotis

1993 Rangers

This is how I remember Tombol: when I look at this photo of the 1993 Rangers -- Little League Champs that year of the HydePark/ Kenwood Baseball League -- I remember how Tombol and my son Daniel used to trade off in right field on that team, each as anxious as the other to be put in the game and send the other one back to the bench.....and how Tombol had the most cheerleaders when his sister or one of his brothers would come and sit in the stands -- never with the moms as we sat next to each other near the bottom -- but high up at the top, set apart in their teenaged-ness grinning at their little brother. Tombol's Mom and I marveled at our equally tall-and-skinny-all-elbows-and-knees sons as they increasingly moved away from awkwardness to better and greater skills in pursuit of their 7-inning dreams. Whenever Tombol dived after a long after a long-distance fly coming his way, he always came up smiling. Whether he had run up close enough to reach the ball or not, he always leaped out as far as he could hurl himself -- seemingly for the pure joy of throwing his body through the air!..... I guess we should be thinking now that Tombol has finally found his wings.....Oh my!... "Fly Tombol! Fly!"

Daniel's Mom (Julie)

To The Malik Family

I am very sorry to hear about your loss and I would like to extend my deepest condolences. Although I only met Tombol a couple times when he would visit Samil,I knew that he was very kind and respectful person. I am very sad to hear about his passing. I wish you all strength with this situation.

Chirag Shah (Cake)

A wonderful person in Tombol

I attended Ray School with Tombol and heard of the tragedy on the news. When I heard the name and saw his face, tears instantly filled my eyes. Tombol and I have not been close and only spoke on chance occassions in Florian or downtown, but my reaction only tell of the type of person he was and the impact that he was able to leave on so many lives. Looking at the many messages that people have left for him also fills me with tears. Its so hard to believe that such cruelty exists in our world... but unfortunately it does.

To Tombol:
You were a special person to many and you will be greatly missed. As you look down on us know that the warmth of your smile will still continue to make others feel well. Everytime you smile looking down on us, someone will feel it.

Anthony you were a great friend to him and I remember so well how inseparable the two of you were at a young age. Not many people have that bond.

To the Family:
Even at Ray Tombol loved to rant on about his brothers and sister. EVERYONE knew who you guys were, and I know there is a hole there that he once filled. Stay strong and remeber that Tombol will continue to make sure that your lives are blessed.

May your Soul Rest Tombol,
Leslie Grooms

Love & Support

I can't honestly say I knew Tombol very well. In fact of all the years I shared with him at Ray and Kenwood I don't know that we ever held a conversation. Nevertheless the more I see, hear, read and ruminate I am more and more compelled to tell you all that I'm thinking. The fact that I didn't know Tombol is irrelevant. The fact that such a beautiful person was caught in the path of such heinous acts, let alone trying to help someone, stirs a pain in me I have never felt. I have found on this page far more in the outpour/cry of love, support and more than fond memories than I would ever need to know to see that the Malik family has raised a genuinely outstanding person. A young man of great character, compassion, love, kindness and gentle sophistication. Someone received as a blessing in all the lives of those he touched, however large or small. I am wholeheartedly thankful for his life and that this world was ever able to have seen him at all, as people of such quality are most unfortunately a rare occurence. He indeed will be greatly missed, but far more remembered. I realize that there are no number of condolences or arrangement of words I can offer to help ease what you're feeling in such a difficult time, yet I can't accept not trying.

Lean on your faith. Rest on it not thinking but knowing the fact that Tombol's life has had many purposes, impacts, and influences which have served as a light in the lives of others as well as a milestone in a more divine scheme of things. Look to the Heavens for a greater understanding and a deeper healing. Unfathomable as it may seem in the midst of everything, both wait for you there. I pray that you might find comfort in knowing that even complete strangers like me were not beyond his reach and that you have mine as well as the Neal & Tuggle families' boundless love and support. Your family will remain in our thoughts and prayers.

Respectfully,
Bradley Neal
KA c/o 99

May Tombol's Memory Be Eternal

Dear Malik Family,

I had the honor of getting to know Tombol in 2000, during our study abroad in Hamburg. That trip is one of the most memorable times in my life and Tombol has a place in a lot of my memories. I remember some of the first conversations I had with Tombol. We both mentioned our brothers quite a bit and realized that we shared an extra special sense of closeness with our siblings. I'll also never forget browsing through a music shop in the airport when we were on our way home. Tombol told me to get a CD his brother had recommended...I took that CD out yesterday and listened to it. They say that some people live to be a 100, but never really live a single day. This site is a testament that Tombol truly lived life to the fullest. When someone dies, Greeks say: "May his memory be eternal." I have no doubt that Tombol's memory will be eternal. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

My sincerest condolences,

Eleni Giannakopoulos

Shiera and Malik family

I met Tombol twice when he visited Shiera in Dublin - and once properly, when I had the privilege of sharing dinner with him last New Years Eve.

I was struck by the fact that he was very gentle but equally charismatic. He was someone special but amazingly modest about it all. ... We all had a fantastic night that night - I went away and told people that I'd met Shiera's brother who was a genuine nice guy. I really meant it and am lucky to have met him.

Sincere condolences to Shiera and the Malik family

Ronan, Dublin

Tombol

Please accept my condolences for the untimely passing of Tombol. I know his life was a blessing to family and friends. My thoughts are with you.

Sincerely,

Tiffany Fendick

To the family of Tombol Malik

To the Malik Family,

I loved Tombol and I still love him. Words can't express how much. I met Tombol freshman year of Highschool and he has been my best friend since. He is one of the people i stayed very close to after highschool. From the corniest jokes we cracked on eachother to late nite conversation about our lives,Tombol and I had a very wonderful friendship. I considered him as a brother. I have been so blessed to have encountered his beautiful spirit and because of the type of person Tombol was, it always made me wonder about the family he came from.He talked about you constantly with so much love and integrity and pride. Instead of talking about his death, i want to honor his life. He touched so many people with his spirit, his wisdom and most of all his love. These qualities that he possessed will stay with me as long as I live.I'm going to miss him...God Bless You!

love-
Kiara Shackelford

Known him little, respected him a lot... Tombol was a true gentleman.

Dear Malik family,

I heard of the violence at UIC a few days ago but I didn't know that it was Tombol that was attacked that evening until today when I read his name on a news site. Tombol was a good friend of mine when we went to Harold Washington College here in Chicago. He was a very unique individual in how he treated others with a level of grace and compassion that is unheard of these days. I used to share with him stories about my times in Sudan and Egypt, and even though he didn't know much about home, he seemed strongly attached to it considering how interested he was in knowing more. I wish I had the opportunity to go with him to Sudan someday. Even though my wish is no longer a possibility, I plan to make a charitable donation to the poor children of Sudan when I go back in December.

With my deepest condolences,

Ahmed A Hassan

Tombol

Dear Tombol,

You were one of the few people in my life whom I felt a unique connection with. I could go months without seeing you, and then when we hung out it was as if we just talked the day before.  Thank you for always being there, for being so kind, so compassionate, and so caring for everyone, especially those less fortunate.   I was always amazed at your optimism; no matter what obstacles lay ahead you were always so calm and rational.  My only regret was not investing more in our friendship.

Tombol, I believe no act of love will ever be lost, and you had plenty of them. I miss you.

Your Friend,
Andre

From Tombol's Computer Teacher at Ray School

Dear Samil, Shiera, and Sati,

Samil, you were in my son Eric's class at Ray School, and of course I remember Tombol as the little brother tagging along behind.  Later I taught him in the computer lab at Ray, just as I did Samil.  That was a long time ago, he would have been in 3rd or 4th grade.  Eric and I were both shocked by the news last week; we knew immediately who it was.  We can't even imagine what you guys are all going through.

You are in our thoughts.

Warmly,

Allan Stern

Tombol

Dear Karen, Shiera, Sati and Samil,

Terry and I send you our sincerest sympathies. We are heartbroken over Tombol’s death. Terry and I loved Tombol. We have never, ever forgotten those early years when he and Owen were practically inseparable. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Love,

Kathy Anderson

Tombol

Dear Shiera, Sati, Ammo Sharaf and the rest of the Malik family,

There are no words to describe how I feel. What kind of world are we living in where senseless violence takes away such a beautiful and kind hearted person... As you all know I've never met Tombol personally but I feel as if I've lost a family member myself... I've had a hard time handling this news and I wish I could be there to grieve with you... I'm glad you are all together and that Ammo Sharaf was finally able to get out of Cairo...  please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Warmest regards and my most sincere condolences.

Always,

Omar Elwaleed Taha Elmalik

Condolences

To the Malik Family,

I was one of Tombol's classmates at Kenwood Academy. I knew Tombol only casually, but his kindness and his sense of humor always filled the classrooms that I was fortunate to share with him. At a time when words seem so inadequate, I pray that the love of God would comfort you and would draw your family even closer together.

May God Bless You,

Gabrielle Parker

Love and condolences to you

Dear Sati, Shiera, Samil, and Mr and Mrs Malik:

I was deeply saddened to hear of Tombol's passing tonight from some Kenwood friends here in New York. I
attended Ray and Kenwood with Sati and also knew Shiera. I remember Tombol as a gangly, adorable kid
much like the one in the photos on your website, with the most infectious smile. It sounds like he grew into
a wonderful young man, and I'm devastated to hear that he is no longer with us. I am sure that his warm
spirit lives on.

I wish you much peace, strength, and love.

Amy Hundley
Kenwood '91

Tombol

Dear family,

I was stunned and saddened by the passing of Tombol.  I was his 7th grade teacher at Ray School and remember Tombol as one of the sweetest, gentlest students I ever taught.  He was extremely likeable, endearing and kind.  My heart and thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

Sincerely,

Mary Cobb

With sympathy

To Tombol and the Malik family,

I heard about the story in the news and it tore me apart.  I actually have never met Tombol, but by the way people describe him, I wish I could have had the chance to meet him as he has touched so many people's lives.  Mr. and Mrs. Malik, Samil, Shiera, Sati, I am truly sorry for your loss and I know this is hard for you, as well as all his friends.  You are all in my prayers.  God will keep him safe in heaven, insha'Allah. Tombol, rest in Peace.

May God bless your family,

Huda Dabbouseh

A few words of condolence

As I am too far away to attend any of the events physically, I want to use this way to express my dolor about the tragedy and my deepest sympathy to the family and friends of Tombol.

I have met quite a few people in my life, but it rarely happened to me that someone invites me at the first meeting to stay over at his place for a weekend, then drags me out to the best parties in town and introduces me to all of his friends. The weekends in Chicago were certainly one of the best time I had during my stay in the United States. Most of that was due to the great company of Tombol and his friends. I always hoped to get the chance to give back a part of this hospitality and friendliness. Maybe in Germany or England during the next academic year.

The description of Tombol in the papers as a nice and peaceful guy falls short of the reality. Tombol was an outstanding, deep and wonderful personality. A person who increased the worthiness of the world and life of the people around him. Someone who cared so much about his friends and whose passing away is an irreplaceable loss to them.

from Hanoi, Vietnam
Le Tu Duc

Tombol

To the Malik Family,

My name is Malaika Martin. My heartfelt prayers go out to you. I went to Kenwood with Tombol and had many classes with him. We often sat next to each other because my name was right after his on the rooster. I remember Tombol as the witty and handsome guy that always kept you smiling. Tombol was a special person and I am happy that I got to experience him as a part of my life. I may not have been one of his closest friends but Tombol still has had an impact on my life as well as many others. May God bless you and give you peace.

Malaika

Malik Family

I never had the opportunity to meet Tombol, I only knew of him that in itself has changed my life. Tombol had an ambiance about him which was truly inspiring. My deepest sympathies and prayers are with you, your family, and everyone who knew Tombol.

Justice will be served!!!

Peace be with you,

Katie

Missing Tombol

I went to high school with Tombol. He was a great friend with a huge heart. His face was so warm and full of love that it put you in a happy place.  I will always think of him and smile. I would see him occasionally in Hyde Park at looking at him smile always brighten my day.

Condolences,

Evita Allen

Tombol

To the Malik family,

I only met Tombol twice but I picked up on the warmth that radiated from his smile the minute we were introduced. He seemed like a genuinely good guy, and from what I hear from his friends, that's exactly what he was. All the condolences in the world can't express my sorrow for your family. You're in my thoughts, prayers and in my heart.

Nicole Frehsee

To the Malik family in remembrance of Tombol

To the Malik family in rememberance of Tombol,

I first met Tombol when he was 16 or 17. I had the pleasure of working with him at the Florian for several years, but more importantly he was my friend. He was such a goofy kid.He was the guy who would say the
same joke over and over until someone laughed. I would often crack up so hard, I thought I would pee my pants. His jokes were usually terrible, but it was his determination to get a reaction that got to me. I always told Tombol he reminded me of "Fifel" from the American Tale move. Not only because of the hat he wore everyday for a year,but he would just look at you with the most ridiculous expression in his face.

More recently we would see eachother out on the town.Whenever I saw him,my girlfriends would say "who is that gorgeous guy?? Please introduce him to me!!" This to me was funny because like many of my friends, I
thought of Tombol as a little brother. However it is undeniable that Tombol was just coming into his own as a smart,kind,humorous,and handsome young man. He was taken from us too soon,and my heart breaks for everyone affected by this loss.

It is obvious Tombol was blessed with such a beautiful and strong family. My deepest thoughts and prayers are with them now and always..... I love you Tombol, and I am honored to have known you.

always, Kelly Hartford

thoughts and prayers

Dear Malik Family,
I was Tombol's computer teacher at Ray School for a number of years. I'm unspeakably sorry for your loss. Tombol was a true treasure. I had a baby, stopped teaching, and moved to the Washington DC area soon after Tombol graduated from Ray.  There are a number of students who I often think fondly of and wonder how they are doing. Tombol was always one of those I knew was having a special impact somewhere.  He was  one of those kids who everyone knew and loved.  He was always positive and willing to go the extra mile for a friend.  He was just so sweet and easy going it's such a loss to all who knew him.  Thank you so much for sharing everyone's thoughts and prayers; it is some small  solace to know how well he was loved by all who knew him.

Yvonne Whittier

My Condolence To Your Family

I remember when Shafi and Shiera were friends,  Sati was playing with the boys in the neigborhood and Samil and Tombol were just babies.  Our family is very, very sad for your great loss.

Katrin Threet
Glendale,  Arizona

WITH DEEPEST SYMPATHY

TO THOSE I LOVE and THOSE WHO LOVE ME

When I am gone, release me - let me go for I have many things to see and do. You must not tie yourself to me with tears, be happy that we had so "many" years. I give to you my love, you can only guess How much you gave to me in happiness. Thank you for the love you each have shown but now it is time I travel alone. So grieve a while for me, if you must, then let your grief be comforted by trust. It's only for a little while that we must part, So bless the memories with your heart. I won't be far away, for life goes on, So if you need me, call--And I will come. Though you cannot see me, or touch me, I'll be near and if you listen with your heart, you will hear, all my love around, soft and dear, and when you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and wave

"HELLO"

via the Angel Tombel

With love & prayers,
Theo's Mom & Sister
(Carolyn & Nicole)

Tombol

Dear Shiera, Dear Malik Family,

It's so hard to find words. We didn't know Tombol but we are deeply moved and we are so sorry. We wish to express our sincere condolences! Shiera, our thoughts are with you and your family!

Susanne and Olli from Berlin, Germany

Tombol

Dear Malik Family,

My name is Olivia Griffith-Garrett and I use to attend Ray School with Tombol. I didn't know Tombol personally, but just from being on this site. He was and is loved by all his family, friends and acquaintances. My prayers are with your family.

Olivia Griffith-Garrett

Ray Class of 1995

My favorite Sox fan

One of my fondest memories of Tombolaya is when we went to a White Sox game in 2001. I’d hung out with him many times within a group context as we’d known each other from Ray days to Kenwood and beyond, but that was the first one on one. I was amazed at just how well the conversation flowed and how similar we really were. I could talk with him in depth about sports, hip hop, politics – anything. He was educated, charming, chivalrous, athletic – he was the kind of guy every girl wants and most guys aspire to be. I was going to ask him to a Sox game later this season. I don’t have to worry about him not being there in flesh, because he’ll definitely be there with me in my thoughts.

In an effort to try to make sense of all this, I continue rely on my mantra of “Everything happens for a reason.” When I think of what this reason could be, I hope that all the accounts of his life and the way he lived will show others how to truly have as positive an effect on the people they encounter as Tombol did.

Malik family: You can be proud of the way Tombol lived his life. I feel privileged that I had the opportunity to know him. I’ll keep both you and Tombol in my thoughts.

With Love,

Jeanelle Sims

Tombol

I had the pleasure of calling Tombol one of my friends throughout grammar and high school.  I am furious at the way we've lost my him, one that always had a smile on his face and never had any enemies.  I remember going to Florian with my friends Darryl and Erik just to see him (well I just thought he was so cute) and chill on the weekends.  I will miss seeing him coincidentally on 53rd St. or at random get-togethers.  Although Tombol is gone, he will always watch over his Hyde Park family with a smile and kind heart.
 
Love Always,

Lisa Laws

Tombol will be missed...

I went to high school with Tombol. He was truly special and unique. I am greatly pained to hear that such a horrible thing happened to such a wonderful person. He was always happy and kept a smile on his face. He was so mature and use to give great advice. I remember one year he wrote in my high school yearbook, that it is better to keep to yourself and stay out of trouble, than to strive to be popular. He received attention because of the good qualities he displayed not because of trying to fit in. He had such in impact on my life that I used to talk about him to my sisters. He was loved by many, and will be missed.

Mourning,

Evita T.

My Condolences

Samil and Malik Family:

I met Tombol a few times when he visited Samil at U of I.  He was obviously a very special person - very gentle and sweet.  I offer my deepest sympathies for your loss.  His death was senseless and terrible and I cannot imagine the pain you must feel.  My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Sweta

This is the Tombol we know and love...